À tale of 2 betrayals

I’m married in 2006 and 2012 we had our first child. In 2014 I was working from home and my wife was working from the office when suddenly a phone start to ring in back of me. It was my wife’s phone before she upgraded and messages were coming in on Skype. I checked the messages and that’s what my heart broke. It was her texting another man. I read through the messages and realize that he was living eight hours away and had two children and a wife. I didn’t confront her first because I wanted to dig enough to find the truth. I search phone bills, messaging accounts and emails. I found out that she had joined lava life ( the same site we met on) which is a dating site and was also actively messaging other men on there as well as this other man on Skype that she had met through Facebook. I waited about two months to confront her once I figured out all the information I could dig up and there was nothing left to find when I confronted her. She denied everything at first until I started pulling out evidence.

At first I started with the lava life people she was messaging. It took her 30 minutes to acknowledge that that was happening
then when I asked her if there was anything else, she assured me, there was nothing but then I brought out the love letter that she wrote him, her second secret came to surface.
At a time it was just an emotional affair. It was crushing at the time and quite friendly and while it was crushing I didn’t want to break up the family. I didn’t know how to deal with it, but I really wanted to keep the family together and just moved on.
Fast-forward to may 2025

I was bringing my daughter to the clinic while my other two kids were being taken care of by my dad. My dad called me to ask me when my wife is coming home and told me he couldn’t reach her. At that moment, I checked the find my app and located at a hotel 15 minutes away from my location. That’s why I knew something was up again. I went to the hotel. I waited to see if I could find her but the car stated moving, and I followed it all the way to the corner of the house. She got out of the car about five minutes before I reached her. She made up a whole story about why her phone wasn’t on and was in airplane mode
Once again, I didn’t confront it right away because I needed to dig to find the truth. I saw she was texting on WhatsApp quite a bit and she told me she was texting her cousin, but I knew there was something on that phone and I couldn’t access it because all of the apps and the phone were locked with her face. I searched the Internet for security loopholes to get into the phone and after about two weeks I was able to access WhatsApp and export the full chat as well as get a live feed of all texts going in and out of the phone on a separate computer
it’s been crushing to see these things And read what’s going on behind the scenes. I’ve already seen a D lawyer like I did the first time but this time I know which direction I’ll choose.

I still haven’t confronted her because I wanna get my finances in order before I make any moves but it’s very difficult when she’s constantly texting him right in front of me at the table, in the car, in the bed and even at my dads house.
And they’re having secret meetings every week or two weeks when she has to go into work I’m struggling day by day and she’s very manipulated with her I love youse and being so kind and sweet at home.
I’ve even hired a PI 2x to film her make out session at a mall and also going in and out of a hotel.
the worst part is he’s even married with three children at 59 years old and from what I read on the text, they met on Ashley Madison, which is a website for married people who wanna cheat on our spouses.
she’s even questioning my whereabouts suspicious of me but I’ve been faithful for the last 19 years. I’m taking the next 30 days to get my finances together for my business with my accountant and spend as much time with my children as I can during our 30 day vacation in a house shared with my dad and my sister. I don’t want my kids to lose their summer, that they’ve been looking forward to. Lord grant me strength and patience to get through this summer. I’m still crushed, but I’m remaining focussed and writing a journal so I can remember all the lies and betrayal she’s done since she started talking to him mid April. God knows if there have been other incedents in between.

6 comments posted: Sunday, July 13th, 2025